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Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Chapters Eight & Nine
Chapter 8: Unchangable Feels Unforgivable “There is nothing more powerful than a person living what God’s word teaches.” I’ve spent a long while reflecting over the bullet points of this chapter: Forgiveness is more satisfying than revenge. Our God is not a do-nothing God. Your offender is also suffering from pain. The purpose of forgiveness isn’t always reconciliation The enemy is the real villain. It takes me back to a Bible study I participated in a handful of years ago: A Healing Journey. Many of the same points made there; the awareness of those realizations forever etched in my heart. I’ve long known that our God is a do-nothing God.…
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Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Chapters Five, Six & Seven
Chapters 5, 6 & 7: Collecting, Connecting & Correcting the Dots Collecting the dots is all about searching through our past to identify how our current belief system has formed: the good, the bad and the ugly. If we don’t identify what might be dysfunctional in our own belief systems (and the subsequent standards we hold others to) and we can’t backtrack to where those beliefs started to take root, then we can’t address the mental shift we need to make in our own lives. As I reflected back to my childhood, one thing was really clear: it was good. Compared to so many others, it was REALLY good. I…
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Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Chapters Three & Four
Chapter Three: Is This Even Survivable? Unresolved grief, pain, unforgiveness, etc. can provoke us to react – behave and speak – in a way that leaves us unrecognizable. Even to ourselves. Suffice to say, it can bring out the absolute worst in us; perhaps even causing us to react in ways that we didn’t even know we were capable. Trying to regain control of an out of control situation, when we ourselves are out of control is a little like sprinkling fuel on the fire. Things just get more and more chaotic. My choice to disconnect and walk away from some people in my life has stemmed from my own…
