• Refreshments with Friends

    When Friendship Turns Painful (Guest Post)

    Friends come in all varieties. You have the friend that has your back whether you are right or wrong, and will always take your side. You have the friend who will speak truth to you even when you don’t want to hear it, and hold you accountable for your actions. There is the friend that reminds you that Jesus is the answer to everything.  Also there is the friend that will dry your tears as she cries right along with you. Then you have the “friend” who uses words to speak hurt into you for the sake of building herself up. My Story of “That Friend” I was once told by…

  • When Remembering is As Important As Forgiving (Guest Post)

    Have you ever thought about living in a world without forgiveness? I believe that forgiveness is so important for us humans. It creates a sense of peace when we forgive both ourselves, and others for certain behaviors and mistakes that have been made. Forgiveness isn’t a bad thing, and there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting, and forgiving but never forgetting. Forgiveness is making a conscious decision to let go of any kind of negative feelings towards those that have hurt you, such as resentment or vengeance. You are not condoning their behavior, but rather, changing your attitude and beliefs on the action/s that has/have been made towards you.…

  • Boundaries: Painful & Powerful (Guest Post)

    As a person in recovery from a loved one’s addiction, learning how to set boundaries was a brutal, but necessary, life lesson. I struggle with co-dependency, so it is in my nature to want to please people at all costs. Even when it costs me my own happiness, I have a very difficult time saying no. Loving an addict was a recipe for disaster. I couldn’t say no to him, and he knew it. If he pressed hard enough, long enough, he knew I’d cave. If I hid his alcohol or Ambien he could throw a big enough fit and I’d let him have it. If he begged enough, I…