• I’m Ashley, and I am 1 in 4

    I’m soaking in these sentimental thoughts surrounding pregnancy and infant loss – compliments of Ashley Arinez – as we start to wrap up a month of pregnancy and infant loss awareness.Thank you, Ashley, for sharing and for your beautiful message of hope[previously published on Ashley’s FB page] . When your body refuses to carry a child to term, there are no words that could describe the pain. There are no words to describe how your body succumbs to the shock and turns to despair and then to rage and ends with a profound numbness. There are no words to describe how it feels to see the physical remnants of the…

  • I am Lisa, and I am 1 in 4

    This particular essay is near and dear to my heart as it comes from someone special in my life: my aunt. I walked this troubled road, and all the associated heartbreak, with her and I am so proud of her for putting down the clay (she’s an artist!) and rattling the keys to bring us her story. . First, I didn’t want a baby.   Then I wanted a baby, but not now. Then I desperately wanted a baby. After more than two years of actively trying to conceive, a miracle happened.  I was finally pregnant. When the initial shock wore off, I was flooded with a wide range of emotions…you name it,…

  • I’m Natalie, and I am 1 in 4

    A special thank you to Natalie: for sharing her story of secondary infertility and encouraging others to speak up about their grief as well…because we never know who else might need our story.[A version of this story previously published to Natalie’s Instagram page] . . This is what I have learned: when life is hard, my words spill over with richness or they disappear, barren and dry. Feast or famine. But friend, we all know that life is both highs and lows, goodness and hardship. We aren’t fooling anyone through our filters and perfectly posed squares. There’s more to you and I than these photos of squishy babes, charming smiles,…